Hi, I'm Nicky. PhD/Masters qualified Psychologist, and constantly-learning Mum of two under 5. I look forward to helping you solve these problems.
The goal of the How To Talk So Kids Will Listen (TM) Group Workshop is to give you practical, effective methods of communication that will make your relationship with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. You will learn how to:
Workshops include 7 sessions of 2 hours each, with about about 10 parents with kids of a similar age to yours. We will learn 30 skills through individual and paired practice, and group discussions. You will get the opportunity to practice with your kids throughout the week, then debrief on progress at the start of each new session.
Why did I choose to convene "How to talk so kids will listen"TM workshops out of the many great parenting workshops available?
Practical tips that parents can use every day.
These workshops are based on the book "How to Talk so Kids will Listen, and Listen so Kids will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. This book is 30 years old and still a best seller. Workshops have been run for years and improved with time. I think a large part of the books popularity is that the tips are very clear and practical, but also non-prescriptive. These 30 skills provide firm but kind approaches that can be applied to whatever issues you are facing.
The approach is Psychologically valid.
The techniques taught fit well with current theories of motivation, particularly Self Determination Theory, and learning, particularly promoting a Growth Mindset, and other psychological principles such as parental responsiveness. The book and workshops have accumulated a lot of anecdotal and case study support over the years, and formal evaluation is underway. Workshops are currently being evaluated, and so far, results are extremely promising.
I can't answer that, but I can help you decide.
These podcast episodes discuss the autonomy supportive approach taught in the workshops. Listen to them by clicking the links below:
For the philosophy behind the approach, read "Liberated Parents, Liberated Children".
For the specific skills that workshops work through read "How to Talk so Kids will Listen, and How to Listen so Kids will Talk". (Affiliate Links - Thank you!) These books will be provided as part of the course if you do choose to participate.
Hang on, if I can learn all the skills from a book why attend workshops?
If you can learn the skills and put them into practice from the book, that is great! Many parents find it helpful to set aside a couple of hours a week to practice and discuss the skills with other parents, and to try using the skills with their kids knowing that they will have the opportunity to discuss their progress at the end of the week.
Workshops will be running in Sydney's North Shore from July 2017, with a view to running online workshops in the future.
This is an opportunity to grow your parenting toolbox. With these skills you will be modelling effective, respectful communication to your child. In time, you will start to see your child able to use those same communication skills.
Register to find out when and where the next event will be held, or to be notified when courses go online.
Nicky has been studying and working in Psychology since 2002, with a particular focus on human motivation and decision making. When she became a parent, apparently simple concepts, such as consistency, choice, and unconditional love suddenly became more complicated. Since becoming a parent in 2012, Nicky has focused her research on how to apply psychological principles and research to real-life parenting.
Nicky has a strong foundation of psychological knowledge guiding her, but she is facilitating these workshops primarily as a parent, who doesn't have all the answers, and who is continually trying to break old parenting habits and build new ones.
The communication skills in these workshops apply to people of all ages, and all caring relationships, so any parent with a child of any age can benefit. However, parents usually feel more comfortable in a group with other parents experiencing similar issues with children of a similar age. Initially, workshops will primarily focus on parents of younger children, preschool and primary school age. If your child is older, you can still attend these workshops, or let me know the age of your child, and I will email you when I have enough interest from other parents with similar-aged children.
Yes. After reviewing a variety of parenting programs, the Wisconsin Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse chose the "How to Talk" audio program as their curriculum for their parent support groups. Among the reasons stated for their selection was: "It appeals to parents of different backgrounds and educational levels. Although workbooks are given to each parent, those who can't read, learn by listening. Cartoons provide visual reinforcement. Role play practice lets people learn by doing. The audio tapes have universal applicability because they minimize cultural, religious, or socioeconomic status indicators. They incorporate both male and female examples.
You will be provided with a workbook and two books: "Liberated parents, Liberated children" and "How to Talk so Kids will Listen, and Listen so Kids will Talk".
It is difficult to form new habits and get rid of old ones. Parenting will require a bit more effort until you get used to the new style of interaction. The time commitment will be 2 hours per week for 7 weeks (workshops). You will also be asked to reflect on your parenting, practice the new skills with your kids, and read a couple of short book chapters each week.
The cost for all three books, 7 x 2 hour sessions, and a happier household, is only $140 per person ($20 per session).
Parenting is difficult. Life with kids can be very trying. If you practice these skills, you will notice changes in your child's reactions and your reactions that make parenting more rewarding and enjoyable. You will start to see your children copy your respectful communication style with you, their siblings, and their friends. Importantly, you will be giving your child the skills to trust their feelings and communicate them respectfully. These are important life skills. These skills are not age-specific, they can benefit any relationship, and so will continue to be useful for you and your child throughout life. Does that sound worth investing in?